Heidi Klum & Seal: What is it about celebs and marriage?

Written by: on Monday, October 31st, 2011
Seal and Heidi Klum Separating

Celebrity marriages, like the one of Heidi Klum and Seal, seem always destined for divorce court.

I think I’ve always followed Heidi Klum more closely than other celebs because we delivered our first children just hours apart at Lenox Hill Hospital in New York (yes, the same hospital that delivered Beyoncé and Jay-Z’s baby girl, Blue Ivy…but I definitely did not have the $1.3 million suite!). Maybe I felt a slight kinship with Heidi. (That, and she always appeared enviously healthy and fit.) But she and Seal seemed so happy together in their marriage, which is a rarity in Hollywood. That and they had three kids together (plus Heidi’s daughter from a former relationship). They renewed their vows each of the seven years they were married (definitely a rarity for any marriage!)—and were always shot laughing with their kids. It seems, though, that there were problems behind these pics in the press.

Kim and Kourtney Kardashian

Kim Kardashian, with sister Kourtney, is super successful...but not in love!

So I was shocked, and a bit saddened, by the recent news of their separation and impending divorce. I guess celeb marriages (J.Lo, Mark Anthony; Kim Kardsahsian, Kris Humphries; and many, many more) are destined to be broken off. Too much money? Too much travel? Too many other priorities?

Marriage book by Jenna McCarthy

This book tells it like it is when it comes to relationships!

Why is it that so many celebrities can’t keep a marriage together? There are ups and downs and there are times when you really hate your significant other and wish you were never together. But then times DO get better as you work through the issues. But celebrities—who are used to getting their way at a moment’s notice—don’t seem to believe (or think) they should work at it. Or maybe they go into it with such blinders that they really are living on a completely different planet in their minds.

Now, I’m definitely no marriage or relationship counselor, but my advice to celebrities is know that there will be hard times. The whole point of a relationship, though, you’ve got to work through the issues and move on!!

Anyone in a relationship (celebs included), though, should read the book: If It Was Easy, They’d Call the Whole Damn Thing a Honeymoon by Jenna McCarthy. The name of the book (about relationships and marriage) kind of says it all. It’s simply one of the funniest—and most truthful—books about relationships…and it’s full of really great advice. A must read!

What do you want your legacy to be? A post Steve Jobs question for us all

Written by: on Monday, October 24th, 2011

Check out my newest blog post for Maria Shriver’s site:

woman at sunset with arms outstretched in air

Find your passion—and then go out and make a difference in the world!

Sweat is really just fat crying!

Written by: on Thursday, October 20th, 2011

Gotta love this!! Maybe that’s why exercise is sometimes so darned hard to do: our fat is resisting big time! Post this up on your fridge if you’re finding you need a little motivation…

Sweat is fat crying

Nothing more needs to be said!

The tough love truth about how to lose weight

Written by: on Sunday, October 16th, 2011

It’s New Year’s—and with the holiday and festivities (and holiday hang-overs) come the inevitable resolutions to lose weight. Before you get started on your diet, here are a few basic “tough love” facts about weight that are good to be aware of:

woman weighing herself on a scale

Don't avoid the scale: it can keep you on track.

1) Obesity starts with just a 5-pound weight gain. Think it can’t happen to you? Think again. People aren’t born obese, but they can certainly be heavy when they’re young (as we can see from the staggering numbers of children and adolescents now struggling with obesity). It can also happen to anyone at any age—and as you get older and your metabolism starts to slow down, it gets even easier to put on weight. It starts with gaining just a few pounds…and then a few more…and then even more. And that’s why it’s so important to be vigilant about your weight throughout your life; if you put on 5 pounds, work to take it off right away…as the more you gain, the harder it will get, guaranteed. If this means you have to weigh yourself every day or every week, so be it.

2) No one is to blame but you. Yes, we can point to the high fructose corn syrup in so many foods as the culprit; we can blame all those unhealthy fast food companies that make junk food cheaper to eat than healthier fare; we can point fingers at our genetic makeup, our emotions, our lack of willpower, our love of food… And sure, these may contribute to your weight gain, but the truth is: no one is forcing you to overeat. The only person you have to blame for putting on weight is yourself.


Weight Watchers location next to Porkys in Lindhurst, New Jersey

A real-life picture about how hard the choices in life are! (Actual picture from Lindhurst, New Jersey)

3) Nothing in life comes easy—and weight loss is no exception. For some reason, people today believe that losing weight should come fast—and most disturbing—easily. All it takes is one look at the preponderance of diet pills on the market, detox diets, miracle cures…and even—to some degree—gastric bypass surgery. The idea is that someone else can provide the cures to our problems, when in fact it all starts from the ability within oneself to change. But so many people today don’t look at their weight issues that way: they want solutions and they want someone else to provide them, fast … and essentially do the work for them. Bottom line is there is simply no substitute for changing, and cutting down on, what you eat and exercising regularly.


woman and man exercising outdoors

Make exercise a daily habit and you

4) You don’t like to exercise? Tough. There is no question that exercise—moving your body—is absolutely essential to keeping your body healthy. Yes, it’s hard sometimes—really, really hard—to get motivated, but it’s not optional. Period. And this starts in childhood: the more kids sit around and watch TV or use the computer, the less time they’re outside being active. I notice this firsthand with my son: in the winter, it’s hard to motivate him to get outdoors and he puts on weight as a result. But in the summer when he’s more active, he drops it naturally. I’ve found the same is true for me: if I don’t make it a priority to get to the gym—no matter what the season—I pack on pounds. (And just so you know: I’ve never been a skinny model type who doesn’t have to work out—and most people aren’t.) What it takes is at least 30 minutes of activity (walking, an exercise video, cardio, etc) most days. If you’re able to get in 3 to 4 days a week, that works. The key: this is not a program that you’re doing for 3 or 4 or 5 months to slim down for some event or trip. This is for life.

5) If you’re an obese woman, you will have a tougher time in life than a man. This fact disturbs me too but it’s true. Last year, the journal Obesity published a study suggesting that obesity was a political asset — in men, not in women, despite what people were saying recently about Chris Christie. The truth is: no matter how much you try to deny it, you will be looked at differently than your thinner peers. Rather than getting steamed up about it, use that energy to do something about it. Make a commitment to be healthier for you. And I can guarantee you that you’ll not only feel better about yourself, you’ll be healthier and you’ll exude more confidence. And that goes a long way in your job and in your life.

And for any of you who might get angry by my words here, saying things like: “You don’t know how difficult it is, you haven’t been there,” I can say this: With each of my pregnancies, I gained 50 to 70 pounds. No I wasn’t obese, but I was definitely much heavier after giving birth. And I can tell you that I had to work hard to get my weight back down: it took time (almost a year after each pregnancy), consistent exercise (even on days when I did not want to do anything!), and willpower, but slowly and steadily the weight came off. And the same holds true for everyone who follows these simple tough-love rules.

The beauty of weight loss is that everyone can do it—and keep it off for good.


I haven’t laughed this hard in a long time!

Written by: on Sunday, October 2nd, 2011

I recently read Tina Fey’s new book Bossypants and I laughed—but when I read If It Was Easy, They’d Call The Whole Damn Thing a Honeymoon (Living With And Loving the TV-Addicted, Sex-Obsessed, Not-So-Handy Man You Married) by Jenna McCarthy (no, not Jenny McCarthy, Jenna!), I actually laughed so hard I had tears running down my face—for almost the entire book. Truly. Honestly. This is one of the funniest (and most truthful) books (about relationships) that I have ever read.

Jenna McCarthy's New Book

After reading this, I ordered 5 copies to give as gifts to my friends

I’ve always wondered why my guy can’t: close his closet or his dresser drawers; why he lacks the ability to EVER wash out the kitchen sink of food and his morning coffee grounds; why he’s unable to find anything in the house and needs to ask me where it is (despite the fact that we’ve both lived in this house for almost 7 years); why he needs to spend eons in the bathroom; etc, etc. Now, I love him…but some things he does drive me absolutely crazy!

If you wonder too why your guy does the most annoying things, get to a bookstore and get this book (out in bookstores tomorrow, October 4, for $15). Not only will Jenna make you laugh about your guy’s, um…well, issues. She’ll also make you appreciate him a lot more with her real women anecdotes (printed throughout the book) of “At Least You’re Not Married to Him”. As Jenna says:

“Now, as husbands go, I have to admit I did all right. Joe is unquestionably handsome, doesn’t leave ragged toenail clippings scattered about the house, and has never once, in nearly five thousand days of togetherness, left the toilet seat up…he’s seen me naked on numerous occasions and still wants to have sex with me. All in all, he’s a catch by pretty much anyone’s standards.

“And yet he still can make me madder than a bag of rabid badgers…the guy seems hell-bent on personally driving me to the nuthouse…But I haven’t [left him] and I won’t, and there are three particularly compelling reasons for this:

1. He’s a guy, and all guys are basically the same, and since I don’t want to die alone, if I got rid of him I’d just be trading in his sometimes infuriating tics for someone else’s, and I’m too old and too tired to even consider that.

2. He puts up with all of my shit. (This really should not be underestimated.)

3. I love him.”

Even if you’re not married and are just in a relationship—or aren’t currently in a relationship but have been in one—you will still love this book. It makes you look at guys in a whole new light—and still love ‘em!

(P.S. I lent this book to one of my best friends—and she called me laughing, saying she LOVED the book too and was passing it on to one of her friends!)

(P.P.S. I went to Jenna McCarthy’s website, jennamccarthy.com, and am now following her on Twitter…but if you’re interested, she’ll be on the Today Show tomorrow morning being interviewed by…Khloe Kardashian)