I think I’ve always followed Heidi Klum more closely than other celebs because we delivered our first children just hours apart at Lenox Hill Hospital in New York (yes, the same hospital that delivered Beyoncé and Jay-Z’s baby girl, Blue Ivy…but I definitely did not have the $1.3 million suite!). Maybe I felt a slight kinship with Heidi. (That, and she always appeared enviously healthy and fit.) But she and Seal seemed so happy together in their marriage, which is a rarity in Hollywood. That and they had three kids together (plus Heidi’s daughter from a former relationship). They renewed their vows each of the seven years they were married (definitely a rarity for any marriage!)—and were always shot laughing with their kids. It seems, though, that there were problems behind these pics in the press.
So I was shocked, and a bit saddened, by the recent news of their separation and impending divorce. I guess celeb marriages (J.Lo, Mark Anthony; Kim Kardsahsian, Kris Humphries; and many, many more) are destined to be broken off. Too much money? Too much travel? Too many other priorities?
Why is it that so many celebrities can’t keep a marriage together? There are ups and downs and there are times when you really hate your significant other and wish you were never together. But then times DO get better as you work through the issues. But celebrities—who are used to getting their way at a moment’s notice—don’t seem to believe (or think) they should work at it. Or maybe they go into it with such blinders that they really are living on a completely different planet in their minds.
Now, I’m definitely no marriage or relationship counselor, but my advice to celebrities is know that there will be hard times. The whole point of a relationship, though, you’ve got to work through the issues and move on!!
Anyone in a relationship (celebs included), though, should read the book: If It Was Easy, They’d Call the Whole Damn Thing a Honeymoon by Jenna McCarthy. The name of the book (about relationships and marriage) kind of says it all. It’s simply one of the funniest—and most truthful—books about relationships…and it’s full of really great advice. A must read!